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Raising little ones is all consuming. We worry if we are doing enough… we worry if we are doing too much… We find ourselves concentrating so hard on our littles & wonder what is left of the person we were before their arrival. Mama, we all feel it. Let’s journey together, lift each other up & be a village for one another…



Why I Share What I Share…


Our Life

lifestyle portrait photographer lauren defrehn at home

For a while now, I have been struggling to figure out how my writing and the things I want to share “fit” into my photography business. How do I marry the two? Do they compete with each other? While people be annoyed by my doing both things? Will people think “why is this photographer trying to tell me thoughts on parenting & her favorite products?” 

And suddenly this morning I had a moment when I realized… who cares? So what if it doesnt seem to “fit” or it feels clunky or odd. I started my photography business to fulfill a need to create and share. And if sharing other avenues is the next step in this journey of creating and sharing, why not. And why am I over thinking this?

At the end of the day, I am a mother. I am a wife. I am a sister & a friend. And I am a photographer. All of these things are integral to the core of my being. And if I want to put those things together with my passions and my loves and share my journey, why the hell not? 

And so what if no one reads, understands or likes what I am doing… I am doing this for me. Well, okay, I do care if no one relates… But really, I am sharing because just maybe there is that one person out there that feels like they don’t connect elsewhere. She feels like no one gets that they want to be a 100% full-time mom but they also long to do “more” and feel their heart chasing dreams that seem silly to others. She breastfeeds and baby wears and co-sleeps but she doesn’t want her “earth-mother” parenting style to mean that she is giving up on personal style, home decor or beauty. She loves to feel beautiful. She doesn’t want to be the mom that shows up to drop off dishelved but feels like there is no in between of the Lululemon uniform of the stay at home moms and the ready for work attire of the working moms. She wants to travel and see the world and she doesn’t want to leave her littles behind to do so. She wants to know she can do it all… not the “do it all” that the world tells her, but her version of doing it all…

So if you are wondering why this photographer is sharing about so many things other than photography, I am sure you are not alone. And that is okay. 

Because I am sharing for that mama who connects. 

This is me.  I’d love to hear about you. 


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